will he marry you? commitment factor number 2
COMMITMENT FACTOR #2
Being Able to Accept Imperfection
Intellectually, we all know that there are no perfect people and, therefore,
no perfect relationships. But it often takes maturity and dating experience to
actually believe it.
Take a client of mine, who broke up with a wonderful woman simply because he
thought he could do better. A year later, he met someone else, who was also
great but far from perfect. After two years of dating, he decided to propose.
If he had met her a few years earlier, he would have broken up with her too.
But now, he realizes that this is as good as it gets, though it took him
several relationships to finally understand that.
Having unrealistic expectations makes it impossible for a man to develop a
close bond. If a guy who isn’t ready starts getting too close to a woman, he’ll
look for imperfections,either consciously or subconsciously, to create distance
between them and, ultimately, to give him a reason to break up with her.
